How to choose your
photo by: Cameron Elizabeth
Choosing your bridal party can be an easy decision for some and a daunting task for others. So we decided to put together a short post of things you should consider when choosing your bridal party.
Intimate group vs. entourage:
Do you want to 2 people standing up with you or 10? When choosing your bridal party you need to consider how the size of the group can change and affect the dynamics of the day.
- Having a large bridal party requires a lot more time to get ready. Are you willing to wake up at 5:00am to ensure all the hair and makeup get done on time?
- Large parties need more transportation. Whether you hire 2 limousines or a bus, these cost can add up quickly.
- When you have a large party pictures take longer. You need to make sure you discuss this with your photographer to ensure you run on time.
We aren’t saying cut out important people, you just need to make sure you think through the logistics.
Consider who will be around 10 years from now
We can’t stress this point enough! It’s so important that you choose people who you truly believe will be around long term. We discourage choosing someone just because they chose you to be in their party. If your relationship has changed and you feel that there are stronger bonds elsewhere that’s ok. Keep in mind you can incorporate them in other roles such as a reading at the ceremony.
Be upfront with your expectations:
Verbalizing your expectations right from the beginning is a must. You need to be clear with what you expect your wedding party to do. Are you wanting them to attend dress fittings, help with DIY projects, host your bridal shower etc. or will showing up on the wedding day be all you need?
Are you asking your party to purchase $400 bridesmaid dresses, have professional hair and makeup done, and purchase matching shoes and jewellery? Consider this when making your bridal party selection. Be mindful of the financials and time commitment this could be imposing on someone. Being upfront will help eliminate any surprises down the road.
Keeping these tips in mind will help you make the best decision. There is usually no need to rush in asking your party, so take your time when deciding. Talk it over as a couple and make the decision together. Happy planning!
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